To work or not to work? (It's my life too.)

Do I give up my work to be with my husband? Snow makes the journey between the two coasts scary and it feels unsafe. A near miss with a car and trailer makes me wonder if I should give up and settle to being The Curate's wife. Can we manage with another drop in income quite so soon after The Curate changing careers? Or am I not allowed to think about monetary things? Moves by Church management to possibly move The Curate nearer my work look like they might come with huge compromises having to be made by The Curate. I don't want him to become someone he is not.  And of course, The Curate's wife is not included in these discussions. I feel so excluded from my life. Is it always like this with the Church?